The other major thing is that a lot of people haven't had the additional benefit of knowing you in person or as a HUMAN BEING and not just an online entity or voice. I'll admit that I had some fears and some thoughts before I ran into you at Anime Expo 2009, but my time with you was nothing short of absolutely enjoyable and I could easily tell that you're just a hard working girl who has not enough time and too many people to cater to at times.
Like Kirbopher said, what happens from here is based on the attitudes and behaviors of the people who decide to (or not to) read this, but I know so many other people who actually DO embody the persona you think others hold about you, so don't let it worry you anywhere near the level it seems to have been.
Kirbopher
Honestly, all of the things you're addressing are just those stereotypical misunderstandings that happen to everyone in the world. It's big of you, and considerate of you, to spend time writing this, regardless. If anyone wants to continue getting on your case after this for the issues addressed, then I think they'll just have to deal with it.